Empath in NYC

Last weekend I took my first trip to NYC. What an adventure; wedding dress shopping at Kleinfelds, remembering at the 9/11 museum and eating our way through Little Italy - it was a BLAST! Good food - good company - great time.  

It was here in NYC, that I realized just how far I have come on my empath journey of empowerment.

If you would have told me 10 years ago that I could successfully visit and enjoy NYC I would have told you that is crazy and impossible. I have waaaaaaay too many sensitivities to visit a city like that, I would be completely overwhelmed. 

After the trip I realized that I can literally go anywhere, any time with anyone and be okay. I can handle anything. I believe in myself. I have cultivated an intrinsic sense of safety, trust and resiliency that allows me to enjoy all life has to offer me. 

Too often empaths and highly sensitive people feel helpless to their sensitivities. Your world gets smaller and smaller because everything feels too overwhelming to manage.  

The good news is that your empathy, sensitivities and intuition are all gifts that will serve you well on your journey. You just have to learn how to optimize these gifts so they become supports and not a hindrance in your life. 

As a healer and life coach this is exactly what I do. I empower empaths and highly sensitive people, just like you, to create a life you love in alignment with who you are and what you want!  

Reply “empower” to this email and let’s chat about how I can support you to create your dream life utilizing your gifts as an empath and highly sensitive person. 

Ready to UNLEASH yourself from helpless empath to pure empowerment then join my new VIP Program and finally create a life you LOVE in alignment with who you are and what you desire. 

HOW TO CULTIVATE YOUR CENTER

Cultivating your center is a lifelong process of getting to know yourself and letting go of everything that isn’t you. 

STEP ONE: GETTING TO KNOW YOU 

Journal or talk to yourself everyday. How can you get to know someone if you never talk to them? The more you talk to yourself the more you will get to know YOU and therefore connect to your center. 

PRACTICE: Your center is your truest self, use this guided practice to help you let go of all the mind chatter and connect to the truest you.  Come to a comfortable position seated or lying down. Begin to relax your body by closing your eyes, placing one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly then take a few deep breaths. Allow your awareness to drop deep down inside of yourself and connect with the essence of your being, your truest self. You can ask yourself questions or bask in the essence of your being in pleasant silence. 

STEP TWO: SAFETY

You are safe. You are not a helpless child anymore that is limited by your age and lack of resources. You are unlimited. You are an adult with access to resources and choices you never had as a child. When you experience a challenge in your life, remind yourself that you are an empowered adult and not a helpless child. Use your center as a means to fuel your intrinsic sense of safety and knowing you are capable of handling anything that happens. 

PRACTICE: Power Statements. Utilize power statements as a way to cultivate a strong center. I am safe. I can handle anything. I got this. Reinforce this belief over and over again especially in situations where you feel like you give your power away. 

STEP THREE: LOVE

You are loved. You are more than enough exactly as you are. This is the truth of your center and you experience this by cultivating self-love. It’s time to treat yourself the way you would your best friend. Can you imagine what would happen if you gave yourself the same compassion, understanding, patience, love, support and encouragement that you extend to others? 

PRACTICE: Reflect and journal about one of the best and healthiest relationships you have ever experienced. A relationship where you felt loved and deeply connected. A relationship where you felt loved, seen, heard, valued, appreciated and supported. What aspects/actions of the relationship made you feel good in the relationship? How did the other person treat you, talk to you? How did you spend your time together? What activities did you do? 

• Action Step: Write down one positive relationship aspect/action from your journal reflection that you can put into practice in the relationship you have with yourself. 

          Example: A friend always made you laugh, which made you feel better and lighter.

          Action Step: Take time to laugh every day. 

          Example: A friend was encouraging and told you “Everything was going to be okay and that you can handle it,” when facing a difficult situation.

          Action Step: When you are experiencing a challenge tell yourself the same message.                          “Everything is going to be okay. I can handle this.”

• Once an action step like, encouraging statements becomes automatic then begin to incorporate another aspect of the relationship with yourself. Keep building upon it until you create the relationship you want to have with yourself.

• Once you create the relationship you want with yourself, like any successful relationship it will require time and attention to sustain this beautiful connection with yourself. If you ignore yourself for 6 months, you will get the same results as if you ignored your partner for 6 months; discontent, resentment, insecurities, etc… Self-love is an ongoing lifelong process to sustain an amazing relationship with yourself. It is not a project, it is a joyful process that is worth the time, energy and effort you put into it.